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5 Signs of People Lacking in Self-Identity
Experience shows these are the actions to be mindful of.
Growing up, for many years, I struggled to find my place worth in this world. I was an introverted nerd and am still one. People constantly “encouraged” me to come out of the shell of introversion and to become what they expect of me.
I always felt the push to appeal to others. I envied people who seemed to not only know it all but also have it all. It felt like they had their whole life set before them. I tried my best to mirror them and fit in but failed miserably with them.
I had a hard time giving an answer to the question of “who and what am I?”
These are the eight traits of people lacking in self-identity.
1. They feel inferior to people with “big” purposes.
The other day, I was sitting down with a relative over coffee. Everyone knows her obsession with Japan. She makes it her life’s purpose to move to Japan. She picked up Japanese and did her Masters in Japanese studies. She even became our family tour guide and walking translator when our families were on holiday in Japan.
The extent to which she chases her purpose in life is an inspiration. I too wished I had such a purpose that I can…
